Don’t co-sleep with your baby. Don’t start Baby led weaning or they will choke. Don’t give him purees or he will never eat real food. Formula is bad for them. Don’t breastfeed past a year. You should breastfeed for two years. Oh my God why aren’t you breastfeeding. Ew, you’re breastfeeding in public. Let them cry it out. Don’t ever let them cry. If they sleep in bed with you they will sleep with you forever. Don’t put them in a walker or they won’t really learn how to walk. Don’t put tubes in their ears because they can cause damage when they are older. Don’t give your babies whole milk because the hormones in it are bad. You should get tubes in their ears. Don’t let them get surgery at 8 months old because it will lower their IQ. Wow, you’re a bad mom since your toddler is tantrumming. Don’t ever get your babies vaccinated because it could cause diseases and disabilities. You’re bad parents because you didn’t get your babies vaccinated. Why didn’t your kids get the flu vaccine? Oh my God you got the flu vaccine? It has bad side effects. You should use orajel when they teethe. Why is your baby sleeping in the rock and play? Why is your baby sleeping on their belly? Don’t give your baby Tylenol. Only give them Motrin because there are less long term effects. Why isn’t your toddler talking that much? Why do they talk too much? Maybe they have adhd or a behavioral disorder. Why is your toddler laying on the floor screaming in target? Just give them what they want. Is your toddler crazy? Okay, don’t answer that!
Dude, mind ya bizz. Do what works for you and YOUR babies. Everyone has a freaking opinion and the only that matters is yours. You are doing a great job gauging what they need and what works for you. If cry it out doesn’t work for you or seems too invasive then don’t do it. If you wanna sleep with your baby forever, do it. Eventually they won’t to sleep with you anyways. People need to stop judging and criticizing. We are doing the best we can.
To the lady in Target in the laundry detergent aisle who rolled your eyes at me and asked me to move so you could look at a specific laundry detergent, you didn’t need to look at that. You just bought Tide tabs. You were mad that I was nursing my daughter (this was 2 years ago) and you wanted me to stop. You couldn’t even see my boob and I wasn’t bothering anyone. And even if you did want to look at a specific detergent, you could have waited a few minutes. Anyone who goes to target usually buys way more than detergent anyways. That same exact day as I was cashing out, she was having a tantrum because she didn’t want to be in the stroller so I took her out at cashier, paid and then sat at Starbucks to compose myself since I was leaking milk and sweating. Some old man told the Starbucks barista that I shouldn’t be nursing my child in public. Maybe it was Mrs. Laundry Detergent’s husband. I don’t do well with confrontation so I just sweat some more, turned red and stayed nursing her.
Do what works for you. Don’t listen to anyone else’s advice. It doesn’t matter at all. Don’t let it get to you. You can ask your mommy friends and read mama blogs for ideas, but ultimately it is what works for you. Don’t second guess it. You are doing the best you can and the fact that you are asking around and craving advice on what the “right” thing might be, already shows you want the best for your babes.
Keep on goin mama. Do what works for you and your family. Sometimes it’s about survival mode. You got this.